Asking Powerful Questions

Questions

An important part of conversation and communication in general is the need to ask questions.  This is a way to show the other person that you listen and that you care.  The asking enables you to go deeper.

There is so much small talk in daily life.  It is essential but not sufficient.  How long can you talk about the sports scores or the weather?  Deeper questions allow us to form deeper relationships and engage in life-long learning.

It is important to ask open-ended questions; those are ones that don’t have simple yes/no answers.  Here are some examples of deep, open-ended questions.  They are from the book, Coaching Questions: A Coach’s Guide to Powerful Asking Skills by Tony Stoltzfus.

  • If you could invest the rest of your life and know you could change one thing in the world around you, what would it be? What led you to choose that?
  • If you had unlimited resources and couldn’t fail, what would you set out to do?
  • What are your most outstanding personality traits?
  • Of all the roles you’ve been in, which ones were the best fit? Why?
  • If you had a year to live, what would be most important to you to do and be in that time?”
  • What makes your heart sing?

Asking questions is a sign of respect.  If done well, the other person feels valued and the relationship grows.  Try finding some new questions to routinely ask others instead of “what do you do for a living”.

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