If you follow me via the Life Solutions Network Newsletter, you might recall that I shared a Live with Purpose Roadmap. Purposeful mentoring is framed by three themes, all of which have been regular blog topics:
- Know yourself deeply…”mine for personal gold” via strengths, values, beliefs and more.
- Have a life plan…purpose, goals, career plan and more in a documented life plan.
- Live to your potential…think and act intentionally. Use all of your skills.
Purposeful mentoring is the simple inclusion of these topics in our day-to day conversation as well as in a formal role (which is even better). These topics require critical life skills and behaviors, for example:
- Asking open-ended questions such as “what personal values helped you make that difficult decision”?
- Using active listening to support someone with empathy.
- Sharing a special book or internet article to prompt critical thinking.
- Suggesting the development of a personal vision, career plan or long-term budget.
- Sending a personal note of encouragement and support.
- Using language of hope and encouragement….Zapping, not Sapping.
Yes, purposeful mentoring might be expected in a formal role but the power of parents, friends, siblings and managers has the advantage of special (influential) relationships. I am not discouraging the formal roles. It works best in a long-term formal mentoring role because of the amount of time that is dedicated and that training and support is offered. Instead, I dream to make it more common. We should encourage the “deeper conversations” in everyday life and leverage teachable moments.