“Surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers, the believers and thinkers, but most of all, surround yourself with those who see the greatness within you, even when you don’t see it yourself.” – Edmund Lee
How do we surround ourselves with people who make us a better person? It sounds easy but requires effort. There is a quality and quantity component of relationships and it requires deliberate choices and effort.
You may know someone who has 500 “friends” on Facebook. These connections (acquaintances) are good but not deep. This outer circle can be as big as your contact list. In the inner circle are much fewer people and maybe one is a very best friend.
We don’t choose our family but we can choose our friends. But even our family relationships require nurturing. I doubt if you spend the same quality time with your siblings or cousins as you do with your spouse or children. We make choices.
A good way to nurture important relationships is to monitor how we allocate time and attention in our busy lives to family, friends and co-workers. Consider choosing relationships based on our Purpose, Goals, Values and Needs. If your needs are physical (e.g. fitness) you need one kind of friend, if spiritual, you choose another. Once chosen, enjoy a deep conversation with them on the phone or over a meal, go to a movie, play golf…or whatever your favorite activities are. Give them undivided attention.
Relationships (and experiences within them) provide most of the meaning in our lives. If you believe this, make deliberate choices and show your inner circle that they are important to you.